We’ve all heard the phrase “misery loves company,” but when it comes to divorce, it might be more accurate to say that “change loves company.” Is it possible that when we observe a big change in those around us, like a divorce, it might push us toward our own transformation? Can divorce be, for lack of a better term, “contagious” among friend groups?
Is Divorce Contagious? Let’s Check the Numbers
Imagine this: you find out that having a close friend who’s divorced might increase your chances of heading down the same path by a whopping 75%. Add a few more divorced friends to your circle and those odds seem to jump even higher- up to 147%. Now, throw in a sibling or coworker who’s gone through a breakup, and the pattern starts to emerge even more clearly. Statistics from a study on this topic backs up the social contagion theory that behaviors, like getting a divorce, can spread through populations much like diseases. But is divorce really ‘catching’ or is it just that our life choices are profoundly influenced by our peers?
Life’s Big Decisions: Are We More Influenced Than We Think?
From choosing a partner to deciding to start a family, our decisions might be more influenced by our peers than we’d like to admit. If friends are tying the knot or having babies, the pressure to do the same is palpable. Sometimes, this can lead to marriages that aren’t quite ready or even right from the get-go.
The Nudge from a Divorced Friend
Sometimes, seeing a close friend muster the courage to end an unsatisfying relationship can be the final nudge for someone already contemplating divorce. Observing someone take the leap and find contentment or relief on the other side can be a powerful motivator. However, it’s important to remember that every relationship is unique, and what worked for one friend might not work for another.
Can Friends Give Unbiased Relationship Advice?
Friends are great listeners, but let’s be real, they’re not always the best at giving unbiased advice. The closer you are to someone, the harder it is for them to remain neutral. Friends often project their experiences onto one another. So, if a friend finds relief in divorce, they might encourage you down the same path, even if it’s not the right choice for you.
So, is divorce really “contagious”? While the numbers might suggest that it might be, it’s important to remember that every relationship and marriage is different. Decisions as significant as divorce should come from introspection and understanding, rather than external influences. Only you truly know what’s right for your relationship. The next time you catch up with a friend who’s recently divorced, listen, and learn, but always remember – your journey is uniquely yours.
