Getting divorced is not an easy road to travel, and neither is the aftermath- living life as a divorced mom. While divorce is in no way easy, it can also be an incredibly rewarding experience. Whether you’re a newly-divorced mom or a veteran-divorced mom, we wanted to share these reminders with you, to demonstrate what an absolute rock star you truly are.
You get double the affection when it’s your time with the kids (or, if you’re raising teenagers, double the grumbling- but they’re still just as loveable!).
You get to develop a bond with your children that is unlike any other. No words can adequately describe how special the connection is with your kids when you’ve gone through such a major life transition together.
You get to build a stronger relationship with your support system. Even if you co-parent, you still lean on your friends and family in different ways- deeper ways- after a divorce.
You get to witness firsthand the kindness of neighbors, coaches, teachers, etc. who step into your child’s life and open their hearts to them after a divorce. Whether their other parent is involved or not, children of divorce often need some extra support, especially in the beginning stages, and you probably don’t have to look too far to find it.
You get to know yourself on a deeper level because you have to climb your way out of the grief of your divorce and find a way to start anew. There is no touching the strength of a divorced mom.
You get to know your kids on a deeper level, too. If you share parenting time, you are forced to focus more on quality rather than quantity when it comes to the time you have with your kids, and that allows for more conversation, more laughter, and more love.
You get to provide a stable home environment for your children. This is particularly true if your relationship with your ex was high-conflict. Two happy homes (or even one, if you’re parenting solo!) are better than one toxic home.
You get to be the real you with your kids. Oftentimes, in unhappy marriages, we don’t necessarily parent the way we want to in order to avoid criticism from our spouse. When you have your kids on your time, a majority of that is avoided. While your ex may still try to create conflict, for the most part, you can enjoy your time with your children in peace.
You get to witness the courage and strength of other divorced moms. Divorce has a way of connecting people that most other situations don’t. Having people around you that truly understand what you’re going through really can make such a difference.
You get to build the life you want. You may not have planned on being a divorced mom, but here you are, and it’s time to make the best of it. This is an opportunity for a fresh start, and while that can be scary, it can also feel exhilarating.
We see you mama, and want you to know that we think you are strong, brave, and incredible! And know what? Your children do, too.