# Split.fyi

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## Posts

- [When Co-Parenting Feels Impossible: How to Protect Your Peace and Your Kids with Laila Aitken Ali](https://splitfyi.com/when-co-parenting-feels-impossible-how-to-protect-your-peace-and-your-kids-with-laila-aitken-ali/): In this ep. of Divorce & Beyond podcast with Susan Guthrie, Certified Divorce Coach and Mediator, Laila Aitken Ali gets real about high-conflict co-parenting.
- [Why Divorced Women Are Skipping Remarriage](https://splitfyi.com/divorced-women-skipping-remarriage/): In the landscape of post-divorce life, an interesting trend has emerged: a considerable number of divorced women are choosing not to remarry, finding solace and strength in their independence. In contrast, divorced men seem more inclined to seek out new partnerships, driven by the desire for companionship and the benefits that marriage traditionally offers. The Shift Towards Independence The reluctance among many divorced women to consider remarriage stems from a deep desire for autonomy and a break from the traditional caretaking roles they may have previously shouldered. Having experienced the demands of marriage, these women are now choosing to prioritize […]
- [How Divorce Is Like March Madness](https://splitfyi.com/divorce-march-madness/): March Madness is officially upon us! It’s that time of year when college basketball teams across the United States battle it out on the court for that national championship. The energy, the upsets, the last-minute game-winners – it’s a rollercoaster of emotions, not unlike… divorce? You read that right. While it might seem like a stretch, stay with us here. Divorce, much like a fiercely contested basketball game, can be full of unexpected twists, and intense moments. But unfortunately, there are free throws. The Opening Tip-Off Just like in basketball, where the game starts with a tip-off, divorce proceedings begin […]
- [5 Tips for Safe Online Dating After Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/safe-online-dating-after-divorce/): Embarking on the online dating journey after divorce can be both an exciting and daunting adventure. In a world where swiping left or right can lead to countless possibilities, it’s important to navigate the dating pool with caution and care. This guide is designed for anyone dipping their toes back into the dating scene, with a focus on safe dating online and self-care. The goal is to protect your heart and your privacy, while also having fun! Here are some key tips you should know: 1. Guard Your Phone Number In the age of technology, a phone number can reveal […]
- [Who Gets the Child in Unmarried Custody Battles?](https://splitfyi.com/unmarried-custody-battles/): When relationships end, the emotional turmoil can be overwhelming, especially when children are involved. For unmarried couples, the breakup doesn’t just signify the end of a partnership; it’s the beginning of a complex journey to determine custody, visitation, and support. Unlike their married counterparts, unmarried couples face a unique set of challenges and legal nuances while navigating these situations. How Unmarried Custody Battles Differ The most significant difference between custody battles among married and unmarried couples lies in the legal recognition of their relationship to their children and each other. For married couples, the law automatically recognizes both parents’ rights […]
- [Feeling Betrayed? How to Handle Your Ex’s Post-Divorce Dating](https://splitfyi.com/feeling-betrayed-post-divorce-dating/): The emotional landscape after a divorce can be tough, especially when children are involved. Finding out your ex is dating someone new or stepping back into the dating scene yourself adds a whole new layer to the mix. Learning how to handle your ex post-divorce dating gracefully and staying focused on your growth can ensure your kids stay front and center (and out of the conflict). When Your Ex Starts Dating Again It’s a bit of a rollercoaster when you hear your ex starts seeing someone new. You might feel a mix of jealousy, hurt, or even relief. It’s important […]
- [7 Strategies to Escape Post-Divorce Groundhog Day Dating](https://splitfyi.com/7-strategies-to-escape-post-divorce-groundhog-day-dating/): Have you heard of the term “groundhogging?” Imagine reliving the same day over and over again, just like Bill Murray in the hilarious ‘Groundhog Day’ movie. Except, in this scenario, it’s your dating life that’s on a continuous loop. Welcome to the world of groundhogging in dating—a cycle where you find yourself attracted to and dating essentially the same person repeatedly. and unsurprisingly, encountering the same relationship pitfalls each time. Post-divorce dating doesn’t have to be a never-ending cycle of déjà vu. The Groundhogging Trap Post-Divorce After a divorce, it’s easy to fall into the comfort of the familiar, even […]
- [6 Key Tips for Healthy Communication with Your Kids During Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/6-key-tips-for-healthy-communication-with-your-kids-during-divorce/): Divorce can be a tumultuous time not just for you, but also for your children. It’s a period filled with changes, uncertainties, and a range of emotions. As a parent, it’s crucial to maintain healthy communication with your kids during this challenging time. Here’s how you can support them and foster a positive environment for open discussion. 1. Respect Their Boundaries Your children need to feel safe and respected to open up about their feelings. Respecting their boundaries means understanding that they might not always be ready to talk when you are. It’s important to give them space and let […]
- [What Is Bird Nesting During Divorce?](https://splitfyi.com/what-is-bird-nesting-during-divorce/): For many divorcing parents, the well-being of their children is paramount. Maintaining stability during this tumultuous time is often a top priority. Bird nesting, an innovative co-parenting solution, can offer a sense of continuity for children during divorce. This approach involves the children staying in the family home while the parents rotate in and out according to a predetermined schedule. Parents may choose to rent or buy a separate space for times when they are not with the children, or each parent might have a separate residence. The Emotional and Practical Benefits of Bird Nesting The primary advantage of bird […]
- [New Year Blues: Why January is “Divorce Month”](https://splitfyi.com/new-year-blues-why-january-is-divorce-month/): Have you ever wondered why January seems to be the go-to month for couples to call it quits? You’re not alone. January has unofficially earned the nickname “Divorce Month,” and it’s not just because people are over their New Year’s resolutions already. There’s more to this trend than meets the eye, and it’s not all doom and gloom. Let’s dive in and unravel this January mystery. The History of January and Divorce January’s link to divorce isn’t a modern phenomenon. On January 5, 1643, Anne Clark of the Massachusetts Bay Colony was granted the first recorded legal divorce in the […]
- [Navigate Your Divorce Deposition with Confidence](https://splitfyi.com/navigate-your-divorce-deposition-with-confidence/): Embarking on a divorce deposition can be a daunting experience. This process, where you’ll answer questions under oath about your marital situation, often stirs up a mix of emotions and uncertainty. However, with the right preparation and understanding, you can navigate this part of your divorce more easily and confidently. Understanding a Divorce Deposition A divorce deposition involves a legal questioning session where you’re sworn in to tell the truth. The main focus typically revolves around financial matters, but it may also touch upon personal issues like allegations of mistreatment or infidelity. It’s like testifying in court, but in a […]
- [10 Key Tips for Communicating with Your Divorce Lawyer](https://splitfyi.com/10-key-tips-for-communicating-with-your-divorce-lawyer/): Divorce is a complex and emotional journey, and effectively communicating with your divorce lawyer is key to navigating this challenging time. Understanding legal jargon, preparing for meetings, and managing anxiety all play a significant role in ensuring you get the most out of your legal counsel. Here are detailed strategies to help you get the most out of conversations with your lawyer during your divorce proceedings. 1. Preparation is Key Before meeting with your divorce lawyer, take some time to prepare. Write down all the questions and concerns you have. Organizing your thoughts in advance helps you stay focused during […]
- [Divorcing a Neurodivergent Spouse](https://splitfyi.com/divorcing-a-neurodivergent-spouse/): Neurodivergent refers to variations in the human brain regarding sociability, learning, attention, mood, and other mental functions. It includes conditions like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). It’s a world where challenges in social interaction, communication, attention, and mood reside alongside unique strengths and perspectives. Understanding this is crucial when navigating the already turbulent waters of divorce. Autism Spectrum Disorder and Divorce ASD encompasses a range of conditions marked by challenges in social skills, speech, and nonverbal communication. The spectrum nature of autism means that its impact on relationships varies widely. Partners of individuals with ASD […]
- [9 Tips for Finding Gratitude During Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/9-tips-for-finding-gratitude-during-divorce/): Going through a divorce or adjusting to post-divorce life is undeniably challenging. It’s a period marked by grief, change, and often, overwhelming emotions. Finding gratitude during these times might seem like an insurmountable task. However, embracing gratitude is not only possible, but it can also be a transformative tool in healing and moving forward. Let’s explore 9 practical, actionable strategies to cultivate gratitude in your daily life, even amidst the turmoil of a divorce or its aftermath. 1. Set Weekly Goals Setting weekly goals is a powerful way to focus your energy positively. These goals can be diverse, covering aspects […]
- [Is it Okay to Have a Divorce Party?](https://splitfyi.com/is-it-okay-to-have-a-divorce-party/): Change is the only constant in life, and sometimes it arrives in the form of signed divorce papers. While the end of a marriage signifies the closing of one chapter, it also marks the opening of another, and that’s where divorce parties come in. These gatherings are less about the past and more about embracing the future, a way to make a transition into a new phase of life. Celebrate YOU! A divorce party is a toast to your resilience and strength. It’s about honoring your journey and the new paths you’re carving for yourself. It’s important to keep the […]
- [Life After Divorce: Will I Be Okay?](https://splitfyi.com/life-after-divorce-will-i-be-okay/): Divorce can feel like a Category 5 hurricane, leaving in its wake a barely recognizable landscape. There’s a daunting question in the immediate aftermath that lingers in the quiet moments between the paperwork and the new routines… “Will I be okay?” It’s a question that often gets pushed to the side as you make sure your children, family, and friends are managing, all while you navigate the uncharted waters of life after divorce. The truth is, amid the rush to maintain stability, your healing might take a backseat. But it’s your healing that’s vital to truly moving forward. The grief […]
- [Is Conscious Uncoupling the Same as Divorce?](https://splitfyi.com/is-conscious-uncoupling-the-same-as-divorce/): When the term “conscious uncoupling” comes up, many of us think back to the much-publicized separation of celebrities Gwenyth Paltrow and Chris Martin. Their approach introduced a softer, more compassionate way to navigate the turbulent waters of separation and divorce. But it’s essential to understand that this concept isn’t reserved for the serene or those walking through an amicable separation. Conscious uncoupling is a viable, healing, and harmonious pathway, even in the realm of high-conflict divorce. What is Conscious Uncoupling? Conscious uncoupling encourages couples to navigate their separation with mindfulness, openness, and a mutual commitment to fostering well-being and growth. […]
- [Deciding to Divorce: Too Little, Too Late](https://splitfyi.com/deciding-to-divorce-too-little-too-late/): Deciding to divorce doesn’t mean you didn’t try. Getting to this decision can be a heart-wrenching journey, one that typically doesn’t happen overnight. For many, it’s a culmination of trying. This is often a long, strenuous exertion of effort, love, and hope to save the relationship. It’s a difficult, deeply personal decision that comes after sleepless nights, tearful conversations, and moments of helpless despair. If you’re navigating through this emotional storm, it’s important to know that you’re not alone and that your feelings of uncertainty, guilt, or sorrow are not only common but also completely valid. A Difficult Choice It’s […]
- [Divorce Recovery: Conquer Anxious Attachment](https://splitfyi.com/divorce-recovery-conquer-anxious-attachment/): If you’re familiar with attachment theory, you know that our early experiences with caregivers can shape how we approach relationships later in life. The anxious attachment style, in particular, can profoundly influence not only a marriage itself but also how one navigates the tumultuous waters of divorce and the subsequent journey into post-divorce dating. If you find yourself in this boat and are fearing the loss of your identity now that your marriage is over, we encourage you to read on. The Anxious Attacher’s Sensitivity and Need for Affection Those with anxious attachment styles often grew up in environments where […]
- [Grasping for Control During Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/grasping-for-control-during-divorce/): Divorce is one of life’s most challenging chapters, filled with a whirlwind of emotions, legalities, and unpredictable feelings. As the ground beneath your feet feels shaky, it’s completely natural to grasp for control in other aspects of your life. As humans, we search for solidity in the midst of chaos–something, anything that feels concrete and certain. However, there are healthier ways to practice this coping mechanism. Understanding the Urge to Control During Divorce During divorce, feeling that you’ve lost control of your life narrative can be overwhelming. As a subconscious way of balancing, you might become hyper-focused on things you […]
- [My Ex-Husband: The Unyielding Oak Tree in My Life](https://splitfyi.com/ex-husband-unyielding-oak-tree/): In this enlightening blog, Jodi Mallow, an experienced life coach who helps clients move on after divorce shares a profound analogy between her marriage and the unyielding nature of an oak tree. Join her on a journey as she draws lessons from her divorce, illustrating the importance of acceptance, self-awareness, and the true meaning of strength in relationships. The Unyielding Oak Tree Divorce is a journey of self-discovery and growth, and as I reflect on my own experience, I can’t help but draw parallels between my ex-husband and an oak tree. In the beginning, I thought of him as strong, […]
- [The Similar Impacts of Divorce and Death on Your Will](https://splitfyi.com/the-similar-impacts-of-divorce-and-death-on-your-will/): It’s not unusual to go through a period of mourning during a divorce. It can feel like grieving a death, and you’re left mourning for a love that once was. The difference is that, unlike death, this person is still very much around, and decisions made during the relationship can still impact your life. One of these areas is your will and estate planning. It might not be the first thing on your mind, but it’s essential to update your will to bring it in line with your current circumstances and wishes. Why and how is the best way to […]
- [Blindsided By Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/blindsided-by-divorce/): Picture this scenario: It’s a typical weeknight at home. You just finished cleaning up from dinner and the kids are upstairs doing their homework. You sit down on the couch next to your spouse of 15 years, ready to relax for the evening. Out of nowhere, they turn to you and say, “I’m filing for divorce.” Wait, what? You think everything is generally okay. Sure, there are the usual marital spats–whose turn it is to take out the trash, why the credit card bill is sky-high this month–but divorce? This is completely out of the blue, and you’re left picking […]
- [You’re Divorced. Now What?](https://splitfyi.com/youre-divorced-now-what/): The end of a marriage is a complex process that goes far beyond the legal wrangling, dividing of your assets, and deciding who gets the dog. It takes a heavy emotional toll. You’ve probably gone through every stage of grief and then some. But the papers are signed, the judgments are in, and you’re technically free. You’re divorced. Now what? The Foreign Terrain of Your New Life Picture a soldier returning from a long deployment. Everyone’s waving American flags, hugging each other, and crying happy tears. There’s a sense that, “Hey, you’re back! Everything will go back to normal now!” […]
- [No-Fault vs. Fault Divorce: What’s the Difference?](https://splitfyi.com/no-fault-vs-fault-divorce-whats-the-difference/): Navigating a divorce can feel like trying to solve a puzzle but understanding the differences between “no-fault” and “fault” divorce can make things clearer. As you go through this complicated journey, take a deep breath and allow us to break things down for you. A Quick Introduction  In 1969, the nation’s first no-fault divorce bill was signed by then California governor, Ronald Reagan. In the years that followed, nearly every other state established a no-fault divorce law of its own. Prior to no-fault divorce laws, one partner had to prove that the other was, well, a pretty bad spouse. This […]
- [Is Divorce Contagious?](https://splitfyi.com/is-divorce-contagious/): We’ve all heard the phrase “misery loves company,” but when it comes to divorce, it might be more accurate to say that “change loves company.” Is it possible that when we observe a big change in those around us, like a divorce, it might push us toward our own transformation? Can divorce be, for lack of a better term, “contagious” among friend groups? Is Divorce Contagious? Let’s Check the Numbers Imagine this: you find out that having a close friend who’s divorced might increase your chances of heading down the same path by a whopping 75%. Add a few more […]
- [How to Survive Your Ex Dragging Out the Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/how-to-survive-your-ex-dragging-out-the-divorce/): Ideally, a divorce should be a swift and amicable process, but that’s not always the case. As they say, “You’re only as fast as the slowest person.” This saying feels all too relatable when you’re on the precipice of moving forward, and your soon-to-be ex decides to drag their feet every step of the way. Common Divorce-Stalling Tactics  From avoiding the service of process to mysteriously becoming too busy to answer emails, there’s a whole arsenal of divorce-stalling tactics one can deploy to drag out the process. Here are some of the most common: Avoiding Service of Process: Like an […]
- [How To Prepare for Divorce Mediation: 9 Critical Steps](https://splitfyi.com/how-to-prepare-for-divorce-mediation-9-critical-steps/): Divorce is never easy, and it often carries hefty emotional and financial tolls. However, many couples find a less adversarial and more cost-effective alternative in divorce mediation. While the word “mediation” might initially evoke skepticism, the reality is that this process has a high rate of success. Even if you’re unsure about using it, understanding the ins and outs of mediation can make the divorce journey less intimidating. Stepping Stones to Successful Divorce Mediation Preparing for mediation involves a mix of practical and emotional steps. It’s important to take the time to prepare thoroughly to pave the way for a […]
- [Ditching Toxic Friends Amidst Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/ditching-toxic-friends-amidst-divorce/): Divorce can bring up a whirlwind of emotions and changes, and friendships can sometimes take a backseat to the chaos. The friendships that remain during and after a divorce play a very important role in your mental and physical well-being. When friendships start feeling toxic, it may be time to cut ties so you can move forward on your healing journey. Recognizing the Red Flags: Letting Go of Toxic Friends During Divorce Divorce is an emotional rollercoaster, with everything from grief and anger to confusion and relief hiding around every turn. It’s a time when you need a supportive network […]
- [When Is a Stepparent Overstepping Boundaries?](https://splitfyi.com/when-is-a-stepparent-overstepping-boundaries/): The dynamics of blended families can be complex. While they represent an opportunity to create new connections, they can also introduce friction, particularly when it comes to defining and respecting boundaries. The role of a stepparent can be full of uncharted territory, where boundaries may sometimes blur or even be inadvertently overstepped. It’s a delicate balance to establish a loving and constructive relationship with stepchildren, while also respecting the existing dynamics between biological parents and their children. How Biological Parents Can Handle a Stepparent Overstepping Boundaries A common situation that many biological parents face is when their ex’s new partner […]
- [How Narcissists Use Financial Manipulation to Control You](https://splitfyi.com/how-narcissists-use-financial-manipulation-to-control-you/): Financial manipulation is a weapon of control that is often used by narcissists, yet it’s one of the least discussed. It’s a destructive tactic often used by individuals with narcissistic tendencies to assert their dominance and power over their partners. When money becomes a tool for punishment and control, it transforms from a neutral medium of exchange into a sinister weapon of abuse. Understanding these dynamics is essential for those who find themselves caught in the crossfire. Five Toxic Money Habits of Narcissists  To recognize financial manipulation, it’s vital to understand the key habits that signal this kind of behavior. […]
- [How Will I Co-Parent With My Gay Ex?](https://splitfyi.com/how-will-i-co-parent-with-my-gay-ex/): One of the more challenging aspects of life is the uncertainty it carries. A particular case in point is when your ex-spouse comes out as gay and you decide to divorce. The initial shock of this revelation might leave you feeling disoriented, questioning everything about the relationship you shared, and wondering if any of it was real. Additionally co-parenting with your gay ex will bring a foreign set of dynamics. Yet, during these moments of unexpected change, confusion, and self-doubt, we can ultimately find profound growth, understanding, and empathy. Questioning the Past The revelation that your ex-spouse is gay can […]
- [I’m Taking The Dog! Pet Custody](https://splitfyi.com/im-taking-the-dog-pet-custody/):     There is bound to be some heartache and disappointment during the divorce process. Among the division of assets, property, and potential child custody disputes, another family member’s well-being is frequently overlooked – your beloved pet. The bonds we form with our pets are deep and full of unconditional love. That’s why pet custody should be carefully considered during the divorce process. Understanding Pet Custody In most jurisdictions, pets are legally viewed as personal property. However, there has been a shifting trend in recent years. Take the landmark Supreme Court case of New York, Travis v. Murray (2013) where […]
- [The Divorced Dad’s Guide to Successful Divorce Mediation](https://splitfyi.com/the-divorced-dads-guide-to-successful-divorce-mediation/): In this enlightening blog, Scott Levin, an experienced divorce mediator, and father, discusses the significant benefits of mediation over litigation in divorces, especially when children are involved. Delving into how mediation helps protect children from trauma, tailor needs around each unique family, and promotes effective co-parenting, this blog is an essential read for divorced dads navigating co-parenting complexities. Divorce Mediation: Meeting Our Children’s Expectations  I once encountered a quote by the late Sam Johnson of SC Johnson: “We shouldn’t worry about whether we’ve lived up to the expectations of our fathers, but whether we, as fathers, have met our children’s […]
- [Sex After Divorce: Pleasures and Pitfalls](https://splitfyi.com/sex-after-divorce-pleasures-and-pitfalls/): The papers are signed, and you’ve turned the page on a chapter of your life. As you stand on the cusp of the unknown, you might wonder about the uncharted territory of sex after divorce. Whether you are filled with dread or tingling with anticipation, know you are not alone. So, how do you navigate the tricky landscape of post-divorce intimacy? The secret lies in listening to your desires and needs, and being aware of the potential pitfalls and opportunities that might come your way. The Power of Timing The first question you might ask yourself is, “When is the […]
- [Financial Abuse & Divorce: The Hidden Impact](https://splitfyi.com/financial-abuse-divorce-the-hidden-impact/): Imagine being trapped in a relationship that seems happy on the surface, but behind closed doors, a form of abuse is silently taking place: financial abuse. This kind of abuse goes beyond just money—it leaves lasting scars that run deep. When it comes to divorce, financial abuse can act as a catalyst, driving individuals to break free from the control and manipulation of their partner. It has a profound impact on the divorce process, but with the right information and support, victims can regain control of their lives and come out of the situation stronger than ever before. Understanding Financial […]
- [Tri-Parenting in California: Blended Family Adoption Law](https://splitfyi.com/tri-parenting-in-california-blended-family-adoption-law/): Explore California’s SB 274 law, which allows stepparents to adopt stepchildren without ending biological parental rights. This blog, written by Split.fyi community member Nathalie R, provides an in-depth look at the law’s significance and implications for a blended family. Additionally, it highlights the need for similar legislation elsewhere. A Tale of Stepparent-Stepchild Relationships: Carrie’s Story The year Carrie turned thirty-three was supposed to be her best ever. After seven years of dating, Carrie was sure that this was the year her boyfriend John would pop the question. They’d been best friends since elementary school and had stayed close through college […]
- [Rising Strong: How Solo Parenting Empowers Single Moms](https://splitfyi.com/rising-strong-how-solo-parenting-empowers-single-moms/): Being a single mother is one of the most challenging jobs out there. It requires a tremendous amount of strength, patience, and resilience. Even if you’re co-parenting, when your children are with you, they are 100 percent your responsibility. While being a single mom can be incredibly stressful and overwhelming, it can also be a very rewarding experience. The Reality of Being a Single Mother Single moms face many challenges, with one of the biggest struggles being financial stability. Nearly 30% of single parents live in poverty, with single mothers being much more likely to be poor than single fathers. […]
- [Successful Co-Parenting Across States: 5 Vital Tips](https://splitfyi.com/successful-co-parenting-across-states-5-vital-tips/): Divorce is never easy and having children with an ex-spouse who lives in a different state can be even more challenging. Co-parenting across states requires careful planning, communication, and a willingness to work together for the benefit of your children. There are also laws regarding custody disputes to be aware of if you find yourself in this situation. Can You Move to a Different State When You Have a Custody Agreement in Place? If you have a custody agreement in place, you may wonder if you can move to a different state. The answer is that it depends on the […]
- [Pop Goes the Marriage Bubble: Dating After Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/pop-goes-the-marriage-bubble-dating-after-divorce/): It’s amazing how our relationship status affects how we show up in the world. You naturally are different when you’re married versus when you’re single. So, when you finally pop the marriage bubble, what does this mean for your body language and energy when meeting new people post-divorce? Body Language When Meeting New People Post-Divorce In marriage, you are part of a team. You have a partner to rely on, someone who always has your back. This can be incredibly comforting. You might find you’re more relaxed, confident, and outgoing with your spouse. You may stand a little taller, smile […]
- [How to Overcome Stepparenting Challenges: 3 Simple Steps](https://splitfyi.com/how-to-overcome-stepparenting-challenges-3-simple-steps/): Learn how to be a great stepparent with these three tips from one of our community members, Nathalie R. From staying in your lane to showering your stepchild with unconditional love, these strategies can help you create a positive family dynamic and overcome stepparenting challenges. Stepparenting Challenges: A Whole New Ball Game When you start dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, it’s a whole new ball game. You’re not just getting to know your new partner; you’re also getting to know their child or children. This was my situation twenty years ago when I started dating my […]
- [Your Prenup Is Not Your Will](https://splitfyi.com/your-prenup-is-not-your-will/): Planning for the future is important, both during and after marriage. Many people understand the necessity of creating a will. Fewer people understand the benefits of a prenuptial agreement. If you’re considering remarriage, it’s crucial that you protect yourself financially. Both a prenup and a will are legal documents that address matters related to a person’s assets. Yet they serve different purposes and are used in different circumstances. A prenup is a legal contract which two people sign before marriage outlining the division of assets and debts in the event of a divorce, as well as any required spousal support […]
- [Betrayal to Breakup: The Devastating Effects of Cheating](https://splitfyi.com/betrayal-to-breakup-the-devastating-effects-of-cheating/): Cheating is a betrayal of trust that can shatter a relationship, and sadly, it can lead to divorce. Infidelity is a complex issue that affects many couples, and it’s not something to be taken lightly. If you or your partner have experienced infidelity, it’s essential to understand the emotional impact it can have on your relationship. Coping with the Emotions Caused by Cheating Cheating can be defined in different ways, and it doesn’t always involve physical intimacy. Emotional infidelity, such as forming a close bond with someone else outside of the relationship, can be just as damaging as a physical […]
- [Sexless Marriage and Divorce: How Lack of Intimacy Can Affect a Relationship](https://splitfyi.com/sexless-marriage-and-divorce-how-lack-of-intimacy-can-affect-a-relationship/): Marriage is supposed to be a partnership that includes intimacy and affection, but not all marriages are perfect. Some couples may find themselves in a sexless marriage, which can lead to a myriad of problems, including divorce. Shocking Statistics Around Sexless Marriage Many experts define a sexless marriage as a marriage in which the couple has little to no sexual activity. This is typically defined as having sex less than 10 times a year. While there is no hard and fast rule, a lack of intimacy in a marriage can lead to emotional and physical problems. According to a study […]
- [Child Custody and Co-Parenting Success](https://splitfyi.com/child-custody-and-co-parenting-success/): Deciding on child custody and creating a co-parenting plan in the best interests of your children is one of the most emotionally charged aspects of a divorce. It can be challenging for both parents, yet it is essential for the well-being of the children. Divorce Mediation and Child Custody Divorce mediation offers several benefits in deciding child custody. Going this route is typically less adversarial and confrontational than going to court. This can help reduce the emotional toll on both parents and children. Mediation also allows for more creative and flexible solutions tailored to the family’s unique needs. The court […]
- [7 Dirty Divorce Tricks to Watch Out For](https://splitfyi.com/7-dirty-divorce-tricks-to-watch-out-for/): Divorce isn’t a pretty process, and in some cases, it can get really ugly. At times people resort to nasty tricks in an attempt to gain the upper hand or hurt their spouse. These tricks can range from subtle manipulations to outright lies and illegal activities. Let’s discuss some of the most common dirty divorce tricks to watch out for so that you can protect yourself and your assets during the divorce process. Hiding Assets. One of the most common divorce tricks is to hide assets. This is when one spouse tries to conceal income or property from the other […]
- [Getting Back With Your Ex: 8 Things To Consider](https://splitfyi.com/getting-back-with-your-ex-8-things-to-consider/): The divorce papers are almost signed. You thought you had moved on. Then suddenly, there’s a spark between you and your ex during the parenting exchange. Not the bad kind of spark, either. Now you’re left wondering, should we give it one more try? Getting back with your ex can be a complicated and emotionally charged decision. There are many things to consider before choosing to rekindle the relationship. You’ll want to reflect on the reasons why the relationship ended in the first place, as well as the changes that have occurred in your lives since then. It’s important to […]
- [Toxic Relationships Post-Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/toxic-relationships-post-divorce/): In today’s fast-paced dating and relationship world, it is often challenging to navigate the different dynamics and behaviors that people exhibit. This can be especially true after a divorce, where you may be vulnerable and less apt to recognize toxic behaviors from a new partner. Such behaviors might include breadcrumbing, love bombing, and future faking. These all have a significant impact on your post-divorce relationships. Understanding destructive dynamics helps you avoid toxic relationships and improve your chances of finding a healthy and fulfilling connection Breadcrumbing Breadcrumbing is where one person leads another person on by sending them occasional messages or […]
- [5 Survival Strategies for Divorced Couples Living Together](https://splitfyi.com/5-survival-strategies-for-divorced-couples-living-together/): Divorce doesn’t happen overnight, and in some cases, ex-spouses may have to cohabitate together during the process. While this living situation can certainly be complicated and uncomfortable, it is survivable. Here are some tips on how to overcome if you find yourself in this difficult circumstance. Survival Tips for Divorced Couples Living Together: Talk to your kids about the living situation Establish a new household budget Take the roommate approach with your ex Give each other space (including time alone with the kids) Don’t be intimate with your ex Talking To Your Kids If you and your ex have children […]
- [Post-Divorce Family Unit: Navigating the New Normal](https://splitfyi.com/post-divorce-family-unit-navigating-the-new-normal/): The divorce process has a profound impact on families. The traditional concept of a “family unit” often includes the image of a married couple with children, but this changes after a divorce. It’s important to remember that this model is not the only way a family is defined. In the aftermath of a divorce, you get to redefine what a family unit means to you and your loved ones. The “Nuclear Family” is No Longer the Norm One important aspect of redefining the family unit is understanding that it is not limited to a traditional nuclear family. The nuclear family […]
- [Why is January the Biggest Month for Divorce?](https://splitfyi.com/why-is-january-the-biggest-month-for-divorce/): Divorce is a difficult and often painful experience for everyone involved. It can be especially challenging for children, who may feel confused, hurt, and unsure about what the future holds. Despite the challenges, however, divorce is a reality for many people, and it is important to understand the statistics surrounding this event to better understand the experiences of those going through it. Why January is Divorce Month and More Divorce Facts You Need to Know According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the divorce rate in the United States is around 50%. This means that roughly half of all marriages […]
- [7 Simple Ways to Detox Your Life and Thrive in the New Year](https://splitfyi.com/7-simple-ways-to-detox-your-life-and-thrive-in-the-new-year/): We do it every year- make resolutions only to realize by February we’ve already fallen off course. Instead of making a resolution, you won’t keep, why not try these 7 simple ways to detox your life and thrive in the New Year? 1. Identify the things that didn’t make you feel good during 2022 and start eliminating or minimizing them. You won’t be able to eliminate everything that causes you stress (i.e., your co-parent, job, relatives, etc.) but you can set boundaries that minimize the negative impact they’ll have on your life so you can thrive in the new year. […]
- [20 Insightful End-Of-Year Reflection Questions To Ask Yourself](https://splitfyi.com/20-insightful-end-of-year-reflection-questions-to-ask-yourself/): Reflecting is powerful, but many of us avoid it because it can bring up painful memories of the past. How you reflect is just as important as the action of reflecting itself. There is never a better time for reflection than at the end of the year. As you begin your end-of-year reflection, go into it with a positive mindset and the goal that you will use this time to better yourself and experience growth for the year ahead. To help you reflect in a positive way, we encourage you to ask yourself these questions. You may even want to […]
- [The Hell That Is Divorce Purgatory](https://splitfyi.com/the-hell-that-is-divorce-purgatory/): Deciding to get a divorce is talked about a lot. Life after divorce is talked about a lot. What isn’t talked about as much is the in-between. The divorce process. Divorce purgatory. The time between announcing you’re filing for divorce and the moment you get the final judgment is filled with uncertainty, grief, and a ton of growth. How you cope with divorce purgatory is a personal journey, but there are a few things you can do to make it feel less hellish and more tolerable: 1. Learn how to communicate with your ex. You will need to have some […]
- [5 Tips for Effective Communication in Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/5-tips-for-effective-communication-in-divorce/): One of the top reasons couples divorce is due to a lack of communication, so it’s not surprising that this is often a struggle during and post-divorce as well. Not only will you need to continue communicating with your ex during negotiations, but you will also be conferring with divorce professionals like attorneys, mediators, and coaches. All of this conversation can feel overwhelming when you are coping with your emotions at the same time, but we have some tips to help you perfect how you communicate in divorce, and beyond. Divorce Communication Tips: Practice the BIFF Response Method: Brief, Informative, […]
- [How Conflict Affects Children of Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/how-conflict-affects-children-of-divorce/): Children are resilient, but that doesn’t mean that conflict won’t have an impact on them. While conflict between parents can have a negative effect on children of divorce, the bigger impact comes when the parent-child relationship is changed or threatened due to the conflict. Parents who are stressed because of the conflict surrounding their divorce may be more apt to use more coercive discipline. Their expectations for their children also tend to be more inconsistent. These factors can cause distance in the parent-child relationship, which may lead to an increase in a child’s emotional or behavioral problems. When a good […]
- [10 Responses to Disarm a Narcissist](https://splitfyi.com/10-responses-to-disarm-a-narcissist/): Do you feel like you’re in a losing battle with the narcissist in your life? Dealing with a narcissist is difficult because they never take responsibility for anything and always play the victim. They also thrive on attention- good or bad. Knowing how to respond to a narcissist is an important skill to have to protect yourself. The next time you find yourself in a confrontation with a narcissist with no way out, give these responses a try: Responses to Disarm a Narcissist “Let’s just agree to disagree on this topic.” “We both have a right to our own opinion.” […]
- [Holiday Stress: How to Communicate With Your Co-Parent](https://splitfyi.com/holiday-stress-how-to-communicate-with-your-co-parent/): The holidays can be stressful for anyone and sharing custody of your children can definitely add to the holiday angst. Good communication with your co-parent is key to a more joyful holiday season. There are several ways to do this, even if you have a high-conflict co-parenting situation. Try these tips: 5 Ways to Successfully Communicate to Reduce Holiday Stress: Plan ahead Get things in writing Use a co-parenting app Involve your kids in the discussion Expect the unexpected Plan ahead for the holiday season. A lot goes into planning the holidays- from making travel plans to purchasing gifts. With […]
- [Parental Abduction: How Common Is It?](https://splitfyi.com/parental-abduction-how-common-is-it/): You might be surprised to learn how often parental abduction occurs during a divorce. Thousands of children are abducted by their parents or another family member each year. In fact, 3 out of every 1,000 children will be abducted by a family member each year. Before we get to the facts of parental abduction, we want to explain the difference between abduction and kidnapping. Abduction is when a child is persuaded or forcefully removed from the home. Kidnapping is when the abduction is accompanied by a ransom for money or other gains. Parental Abduction Statistics Common Reasons Parental Abduction Occurs […]
- [Scary Facts About Hidden Abuse](https://splitfyi.com/scary-facts-about-hidden-abuse/): Not all abuse comes with visible bruises. Hidden abuse can be just as painful and difficult to heal from. The abuse you may be unable to see attacks and creates emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial damage. One of the scariest parts of hidden abuse is that not everyone will believe the victim. They’re often left feeling like they must prove that the abuse even happened in the first place. Emotional Abuse Facts Emotional abuse is when someone tries to control and manipulate a victim by using emotionally abusive tactics. They may use abusive words and other bullying behaviors to lower […]
- [Divorce Revenge: The Good, Bad, and Ugly](https://splitfyi.com/divorce-revenge-the-good-bad-and-ugly/): Sweet revenge? When it comes to divorce, it depends. When your ex hurts you, your first instinct might be to hurt your ex back but doing so never feels as good as you think it will. In fact, divorce revenge can land you in a lot of emotional and legal trouble. When it comes to revenge after divorce, some things definitely fall into the “bad and the ugly” category. Things you should steer clear of when you desire retaliation against your ex include: Physically or emotionally harming them Damaging their personal property Using your children against them Dating someone close […]
- [Co-Parenting with a Narcissist](https://splitfyi.com/co-parenting-with-a-narcissist/): Is co-parenting with a narcissist possible? To answer this question, one must first understand what constitutes co-parenting and what classifies someone as a narcissist. What is a narcissist? “Narcissist” has become a bit of a buzzword lately, but in reality, only an estimated 5% of the population has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Your ex may exhibit signs of narcissism, but they aren’t considered one until they’ve been diagnosed by a mental health professional like a psychologist or psychiatrist. Some common narcissistic traits include: Inflated sense of self-importance Feeling of entitlement The need for constant attention Thinking they’re superior to […]
- [Remarriage After Divorce: 5 Things to Prepare Yourself](https://splitfyi.com/remarriage-after-divorce-5-things-to-prepare-yourself/): Just when you’ve finally gotten to the point where you’re embracing your singleness, boom- love comes along again. You’ve already gone through one identity shift after your divorce, and while you’ve certainly got heart eyes for your new partner, you might also be a little scared of making that shift to being a spouse again. It’s natural to feel this way. You put in a lot of hard work towards accepting living life on your own, and you might even enjoy it. How do you shift back to a partnership? While you can’t control when love is going to enter […]
- [Post-Divorce: 3 Things to Do Next](https://splitfyi.com/post-divorce-3-things-to-do-next/): The papers are signed. Everything is final. Now what? First off, let out that deep sigh you’ve been holding in for the entire divorce process. You made it to the other side, and now you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Once you’ve done that, we recommend including these three things on your post-divorce checklist. Three Things to Do Post-Divorce: Stabilize yourself financially Prepare yourself emotionally for future relationships Protect yourself legally Stabilize Your Finances  Chances are that the divorce did a number on your finances. Even those who were well-off financially before the divorce can see […]
- [12 Crucial Things to Know Before Getting a Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/12-crucial-things-to-know-before-getting-a-divorce/): There is a lot to navigate when it comes to divorce, and most of it isn’t easy. It will be one of the hardest things you will ever go through in your life, but there is also a lot of growth to be had, a lot of lessons to be learned, and many ways to make the process easier on everyone involved. Read on to find out the most common things couples say they wish they knew before getting a divorce. 12 Crucial Things to Know Before Getting a Divorce It’s going to get harder before it gets better, but […]
- [To Stay or To Go: What to Consider Before Deciding to Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/to-stay-or-to-go-what-to-consider-before-deciding-to-divorce/): Are you experiencing divorce decision paralysis? When you’re in the “to stay or to go” stage of your marriage, you can feel anxious, uncertain, overwhelmed, and even fearful. Forming decisions when you’re in this state can have you making choices you otherwise wouldn’t make. If you want to end the decision paralysis and move forward with confidence, there are a few things to think about first.  The Importance of Focusing Inward We often focus on the other person when we’re having relationship problems. We think about what they’re doing or not doing, what they’re thinking, and how they’re feeling. This […]
- [6 Parenting Styles You Are Up Against During Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/6-parenting-styles-you-are-up-against-during-divorce/): Different parenting styles can have a huge impact on a marriage and cause a great deal of stress for both you, your partner, and your children. Knowing this, it should come as no surprise that different parenting can also wreak havoc on a co-parenting relationship. Wonder what type of parenting characteristics you’re up against in your divorce and how you can deal? Read 6 parenting styles you are up against during divorce to find out. The Different Types of Parenting Styles Lawnmower parent Helicopter parent Free-range parent Attachment parent Tiger parent Elephant parent Determining What Type of Parenting Style You’re […]
- [How to Minimize Negative Effects of Divorce on Your Children](https://splitfyi.com/how-to-minimize-negative-effects-of-divorce-on-your-children/): It’s no secret that the relationships we witness as children impact our relationships as adults, so it’s common for divorced parents to worry about how their split will impact their children. What many divorced parents may not realize is that it’s not the breakup itself that creates negative effects on children, but co-parenting conflicts that arise after the divorce. Let us help you to minimize the negative effects of divorce on your children. Common Negative Effects of Divorce on Children: Mental health problems Behavior problems Academic difficulties Risky behaviors When You Divorce with Kids, Keep an Eye on Their Mental […]
- [Winning In Divorce. Is That Possible?](https://splitfyi.com/winning-in-divorce-is-that-possible/): Chances are, if you’re going through a divorce or have already gotten a divorce, at some point, you’ve wanted to “win” against your ex. Winning in divorce. Is that possible? Human beings are competitive by nature. That’s why so many of us enjoy watching sports- it’s fun to root for someone to win. When it comes to divorce, though, there is no “winner”. One party may get more custody or more of the marital assets, but in the end, no one really “wins”. Here are 5 reasons why this is true. Why There Is No Winning In Divorce: There’s no […]
- [How to Co-Parent with a Difficult Ex](https://splitfyi.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-difficult-ex/): Does your ex thrive on conflict? Are they narcissistic? Do you struggle with how to peacefully co-parent with someone who seems to want anything but peace? Co-parenting with a difficult ex is just that- difficult- but it’s not impossible. There are several steps you can take to make your co-parenting relationship better for you and your children. The following 7 steps can show you how to co-parent with a difficult ex. Steps to Take When Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex: Set boundaries Let go of what you can’t control Recognize how you contribute to unhealthy communication Choose what you respond […]
- [Dating after Divorce: 6 Ways to Rock the Single Scene](https://splitfyi.com/dating-after-divorce-6-ways-to-rock-the-single-scene/): So, you’re single. Now what? The answer for many divorcees is to start dating again, but the thought of dating apps and meaningless hookups is a lot to take in after a long-term relationship and harrowing divorce process. If you’re looking to ease into the post-divorce dating scene, we’ve got some tips for you. Dating after divorce: 6 ways to rock the single scene. Set realistic expectations Be honest about your divorce Stay positive Do what’s best for you Work on your own issues Have fun! Setting Realistic Expectations When Dating After Divorce That first date after your divorce is […]
- [What to Do With the Marital Home When You Divorce](https://splitfyi.com/what-to-do-with-the-marital-home-when-you-divorce/): The marital home is usually the largest asset in a divorce. Not only does it have the highest monetary value, it also holds the biggest emotional weight out of all the marital properties. It’s where you and your spouse planned to spend your lives together, and many important life moments took place there. Both you and your spouse likely have an emotional attachment to it, and it can be difficult to let go of that and assign a monetary value to it. Three Ways to Deal With the Marital Home in a Divorce:  Sell the home   Negotiate a buyout […]
- [Feeling Stuck After Your Divorce? Here’s Why](https://splitfyi.com/feeling-stuck-after-your-divorce-heres-why/): You want to move on, but you just can’t seem to do it. Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. Many divorcees have a hard time moving forward with their life after everything is finalized. They remain stuck between the past and the future, sort of a divorce purgatory, if you will. So, how do you free yourself from all the divorce heaviness that is weighing you down, preventing you from fully embracing your new life? It starts with recognizing why you are in divorce pergatory in the first place. Still feeling stuck after your divorce? Here’s why. Five Things […]
- [Successfully Co-Parenting Over the Summer: A How-to Guide](https://splitfyi.com/successfully-co-parenting-over-the-summer-a-how-to-guide/): Successfully Co-Parenting The summer months are upon us, and that means it’s time to start thinking about adjustments that may need to be made to your shared parenting plan. While summer vacation and other holidays are usually factored into the equation when you negotiate custody, there are still things that will come up each year that will have to be dealt with when it comes to co-parenting over the summer. Action Tips for Successful Co-Parenting Over the Summer Put your children’s needs first Plan ahead for vacations Expect to share extra expenses Involve your children when making plans Communicate with […]
- [Are You Experiencing Divorce Stress and Divorce Anxiety?](https://splitfyi.com/are-you-experiencing-divorce-stress-and-divorce-anxiety/): It’s no secret that divorce is stressful. In fact, it’s considered the second most stressful event you can experience in life, topped only by the death of a loved one. Are you experiencing divorce stress and divorce anxiety?  The anxiety that comes along with divorce is two-fold. One part comes from the known stressors- things you know must be done but can still be overwhelming. You know divorce is going to be costly. You know you’re going to have to start a new life. You know you’re going to have to make decisions about the marital home and child custody and […]
- [The Best 5 Dos for Success as a Divorced Dad](https://splitfyi.com/the-best-5-dos-for-success-as-a-divorced-dad/): Being a parent is not easy. Being a divorced parent is even harder. But being a divorced dad is on a whole other level of difficulty. The stigma they face, coupled with the challenge of a child custody process that is still skewed towards the mother (although there have been some serious strides in this area), can have any divorced dad stressed beyond belief. Of the roughly 72 million dads in the United States, 12.9% of them are divorced, according to the most recent US Census Bureau data. That is a lot of divorced dads needing support, and that support isn’t […]
- [20 Signs That You Were Married to a Narcissist](https://splitfyi.com/20-signs-that-you-were-married-to-a-narcissist/): We want to believe the best about the people we love, so oftentimes it’s not until we’re removed from the situation that we see their true colors. Those colors aren’t always pretty, either. Narcissism is a pretty big buzzword going around right now, but the true characteristics of it actually fall under the category of a very serious- and often very traumatizing- personality disorder. Think you might have been married to one? Read on to find out. 20 Tell-Tale Ways to Spot a Narcissist A narcissist is very good at convincing the people around them that they are the crazy […]
- [Did You Know That You Can Gaslight Yourself?](https://splitfyi.com/did-you-know-that-you-can-gaslight-yourself/): Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse, usually done by one person to another, where they manipulate that person and minimize how they feel so that they start to question their own reality. Self-gaslighting can also happen, but instead of an abuser doing the manipulation, you start to manipulate yourself. You start discrediting your emotions and may even try to convince yourself that you’re remembering things wrong. How do you recognize the signs of self-gaslighting, and more importantly, how do you stop? Where did the term “gaslighting” originate? Recognizing the signs of self-gaslighting starts with understanding what gaslighting is in […]
- [Remarriage After Divorce? Here’s What You Need to Know](https://splitfyi.com/remarriage-after-divorce-heres-what-you-need-to-know/): A second chance at love sounds great, doesn’t it? Maybe so but getting married again after divorce comes with its fair share of challenges. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher than that of first marriages- a whopping 60 percent! Another surprising statistic is that nearly 80 percent of divorcees will get married again. If you or someone you know is contemplating remarriage after divorce, here’s what you need to know. Seeing that so many divorcees decide to get married again, it’s important that they take a more thoughtful approach to finding love. Doing so might help drop […]
- [The Ins and Outs of Lump Sum Divorce Alimony](https://splitfyi.com/the-ins-and-outs-of-lump-sum-divorce-alimony/): For many, one of the most bitter divorce pills to swallow is paying spousal support (aka alimony). Paying support is a monthly reminder of emotional painful loss or financial stress, all the while someone is trying to recover from the financial cost of divorce. This is not just the case for the payor, a payee also can feel the same loss when receiving payments. They can experience frustration for still being reliant on an ex-partner. The payee might feel beholden to or under the power of their ex by receiving these payments every month. This receivership can cause a lot of […]
- [6 Secret Signs of Silent Abuse](https://splitfyi.com/6-secret-signs-of-silent-abuse/): Abuse isn’t always loud and noticeable. Sometimes, you may not even realize you’re being abused until someone else points it out to you, or until you are finally out of the relationship. It’s important to know the signs of abuse so you can recognize them early on and get help. Verbal, emotional, mental- these are all forms of abuse, but they may be so subtle that you don’t even recognize them right away. You may just be left with a feeling that something isn’t right about how your partner interacts with you. Trust your gut and don’t be afraid to reach […]
- [5 Reasons Why Divorce Can Break the Bank](https://splitfyi.com/5-reasons-why-divorce-can-break-the-bank/): You’ve heard of sticker shock from making big purchases like a house, car, even a wedding… but sticker shock from divorce? Yes, it’s very real, and there are many reasons why it’s so expensive. The good news is, that although traditional divorce is quite costly, there are ways you can minimize the sticker shock of your own divorce. Let’s first explore why that divorce cost is so high: The legal system is confusing. Even the most organized person can find all of the paperwork associated with a divorce confusing and cumbersome. What petition needs to be filed when and where? […]
- [How to Enjoy a Rock Star Mother’s Day as a Divorced Mom](https://splitfyi.com/how-to-enjoy-a-rock-star-mothers-day-as-a-divorced-mom/): Getting divorced is not an easy road to travel, and neither is the aftermath- living life as a divorced mom. While divorce is in no way easy, it can also be an incredibly rewarding experience. Whether you’re a newly-divorced mom or a veteran-divorced mom, we wanted to share these reminders with you, to demonstrate what an absolute rock star you truly are. Affection You get double the affection when it’s your time with the kids (or, if you’re raising teenagers, double the grumbling- but they’re still just as loveable!). Bonds You get to develop a bond with your children that is […]
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- [When do I feel most in tune with myself?](https://splitfyi.com/when-do-i-feel-most-in-tune-with-myself/)
- [When I look in the mirror, what do I see?](https://splitfyi.com/when-i-look-in-the-mirror-what-do-i-see/)
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